Category Archives: life & death

Double Dark Stars of Grief & Anger

Posted on January 16, 2022 by bullersbackporch

I wrote about grief back in November as the winter holidays loomed large because I know holidays can be hard for anyone who has suffered loss. If a particular holiday is associated with that loss, that holiday will always be … Continue reading →

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Afterlife Alternatives

Posted on August 22, 2021 by bullersbackporch

Nobody knows what happens after we die.Many people describe their ideas about an Afterlife, but no one knows. That doesn’t stop us from speculating what might happen. Here are a few thoughts on some possibilities. Heaven & Hell Many religions … Continue reading →

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“Okay-ish,” 3 Weeks Later

Posted on July 21, 2021 by bullersbackporch

It’s been over 3 weeks since my brother, Scott Whitebird, died. I haven’t been blogging since then. I’m still waiting for words to regain some level of meaning or significance. Mostly, I’m “okay-ish.” Days come and go and I drift … Continue reading →

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Hard stop…Restart…

Posted on July 10, 2021 by bullersbackporch

Sometimes everything just stops. Like this blog. I haven’t posted here in close to 2 weeks. I could explain I’ve been on a journey, too focused on the details of traveling to divert my attention to writing. I could explain … Continue reading →

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for my brother, Scott — and All of Us

Posted on June 27, 2021 by bullersbackporch

we are all fragile,temporary containersof eternal light

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No Regrets

Posted on August 31, 2020 by bullersbackporch

Tip of the hat for today’s topic goes to Mark Blumenthal of the American Botanical Council. I first met Mark in passing years ago as a friend of the folks who ran Nothing Strikes Back. A few years back, I … Continue reading →

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Walking in the Long Shadow of Grief

Posted on August 25, 2020 by bullersbackporch

This camel stops at every tent. —a Persian proverb my friend and colleague, Bijan Masumian, shared with me upon hearing of my father’s death Death is inevitable. We each will die. Before that, people that we know die. As you … Continue reading →

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Remembering my Friend, Mike MacNaughton (Part 3)

Posted on August 7, 2020 by bullersbackporch

Part 3 — In the wake of my best friend’s death recently, I’ve been trying to walk myself back through our many years of friendship and companionship, sharing short summaries of significant phases while highlighting a few stories along the … Continue reading →

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Remembering my Friend, Mike MacNaughton (Part 2)

Posted on August 4, 2020 by bullersbackporch

Part 2 of frustratingly incomplete memory snatches of my best friend, Mike MacNaughton, who died unexpectedly in his sleep recently. I’d known him for 50 years, so any tribute is obviously abbreviated. Even spreading some of these stories out over … Continue reading →

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Remembering my Friend, Mike MacNaughton (Part 1)

Posted on July 26, 2020 by bullersbackporch

  My best friend, Mike MacNaughton, died unexpectedly in his sleep last week. The loss of any close friend is difficult & life-changing, and Mike was my best friend for most of my life. Recently, we reconnected again after a … Continue reading →

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